Do You And Your Partner Feel Like Your Relationship Has Gone Stale?
Are you and your significant other struggling to work through your differences? Do you feel like you are always having the same arguments over and over? Maybe you have come to realize that you both hold different values and you do not agree on the fundamentals of a relationship. Or perhaps your romance has simply gone stale, and you are not on the same page anymore. Both of you find yourselves spending less and less time together. You may ask yourself: Where did we go wrong?
Marriages and relationships can turn sour for any number of reasons. You and your partner may be so busy with work, school, and other demands that your relationship simply does not feel like a priority anymore. Your spouse may be overly critical, leading to a growing atmosphere of tension and resentment between you. Perhaps you find yourself “shutting down” or giving your partner the silent treatment, preferring not to engage with them at all.
Deep down, however, you probably wish you could go back to the time you first fell in love, when everything fell right into place. It is like you and your partner were dancing in sync, but now you have lost the rhythm. You find yourselves stepping all over each other and unable to move in unison. If this is the case, we would be honored to help you. Couples therapy gives you a chance to work through your differences, reevaluate your expectations, and rekindle your love and affection for each other.
It’s Normal To Hit A Rough Patch In Your Relationship
Commitments are hard to maintain. The spark that couples had at 20 may not be there at 60. As relationships mature, many couples may struggle to stay connected, which can cause a decrease in sexual satisfaction. Additionally, in a society as work-obsessed as ours, it’s not unusual for relationships to become secondary and get pushed to the backburner. Many couples simply feel too busy for each other.
In the wake of COVID-19, more and more people have been forced to isolate and work from home. While this means couples can be together more, it also opens up new doors for tension. Even though two people are in the same home, they may have schedules that make it hard to spend time with each other. One person may not have time to socialize, but their partner may take it personally.
On top of all these issues, couples often wind up stuck in toxic cycles that they cannot break on their own. They may find themselves continually having the same arguments with the same responses and ineffectual resolutions. Because their relationship habits have become so ingrained over time, it might be difficult for them to envision new ways of communicating and solving conflict.
If you and your loved one find yourselves in a similar place, we are here to tell you that you don’t have to remain stuck in these negative cycles. Couples therapy is a chance to get a fresh, unbiased perspective on your problems and breathe new life into your marriage or relationship.
Couples Therapy Can Help You Navigate Conflict And Enliven Your Love For Each Other
Let’s face it: there are probably things about your spouse that you wish you could change. While individual change is important, healing a relationship requires each of you to do your part. It means both of you have to step back, listen, and relinquish your need to be right. This is a time to learn about where your partner is coming from and why they have different expectations than you. Our goal is for both of you to build empathy by coming to a new understanding of each other’s needs and ensuring that those needs are met.
Social Solutions provides counseling services for couples from diverse communities—gay and lesbian, transgender, BIPOC, married and unmarried, and any other couples with unique challenges. We want to meet you wherever you are in life and explore the underlying causes complicating your relationship. We want to know—what are your stressors, values, and expectations, and how did they come about? Oftentimes, the unconscious assumptions that you bring to a relationship are formed because of the way you were raised. For instance, suppose your partner grew up in a home where their parents constantly interrupted each other. To them, interrupting you is normal and acceptable. To you, it is deeply aggravating. Our aim is to explore the reason this discrepancy exists and how it is hurting your relationship. We want to take a closer look at the patterns you have carried into your relationship and ask: Are they healthy or not?
Additionally, one of the focal points of couples counseling is helping you bring intimacy and connection back into your marriage. We want you and your loved one to feel sexy again—to focus on the positive in your relationship, improve your connection, and renew your intimacy and affection. If one of you has needs that are not being met, we want to help you come up with new ways to keep each other satisfied and enlivened.
As long as both of you are committed to the healing process and willing to leave no stone unturned, there is always hope. By getting to the root causes of your conflicts, you can heal the disconnect in your relationship and begin dancing in sync again.
You may have some questions about couples therapy…
Can you really help us?
On your own, it is hard to see your relationship with fresh eyes and understand where the disconnect really lies. That’s why it is so important to have a couples therapist who can help you notice unhealthy patterns and behaviors that may have slipped under your radar. By giving you a fresh perspective and helping you make small, consistent changes in your life, it is possible to heal your relationship. The key is to be patient and understand that baby steps can make a huge difference in the long run.
What can we expect?
Counseling is a place where you can relax, unwind, and get comfortable. We strive to make the process as easy and unintimidating as possible. You will have a safe space to address your relationship’s issues without any fear of judgment or someone telling you how to behave. Instead of having to repeat the same arguments over and over, you can expect to learn new skills for resolving your conflicts.
How long will we need to see a couples counselor?
The timetable for therapy is different for every couple. You and your partner may come to work on short-term goals, or you may decide you want long-term intervention. The important thing is to go at your own pace. No couple can solve all their issues overnight. It is by working together and staying committed during the healing process that meaningful change comes about.
Get To The Root Of Your Disagreements And Breathe New Life Into Your Relationship
If you and your significant other feel like you are going in circles and having the same fights day after day, we encourage you to contact us. Couples therapy is a chance to see your relationship in a new light and make changes that last a lifetime. To get started, you can email us, fill out the contact form, or call us at 240-473-3436.
Due to COVID-19, we are currently providing all marital counseling services via telehealth.